A Conversation with the Fierce & Inspiring Tonya Renee Durham

At Photos by LJK, we celebrate women who lead with strength, passion, and purpose. Today, we’re sitting down with Tonya Renee Durham, a woman who embodies resilience, dedication, and fierce leadership. From coaching to motherhood to academic success, she’s a powerhouse who pours into others. Let’s dive into her story!

Photos by LJK: What’s your full name?

Tonya: Tonya Renee Durham.

Photos by LJK: Who is the woman that inspires you the most?

Tonya: My 12-year-old daughter, Kynsley. She is always the tallest in her class, and she takes on her height proudly, walking with her head up and her crown straight.

She is experiencing some controversy in soccer right now, but she takes it head-on and with grace. Kynsley represents every tall 12-year-old with dignity, kindness, and compassion. Her heart is pure, and she will help anyone in need. She truly is the best version of my family.

Photos by LJK: That is so beautiful—raising strong, confident daughters is a true legacy! If you could give your younger self one piece of advice, what would it be?

Tonya: Smile and laugh more. Your life is going to be full of change and new discoveries. Enjoy the small things and celebrate every accomplishment. You’ve earned it.

Photos by LJK: Yes! What’s your go-to song when you need to feel empowered?

Tonya: “Ante Up” by Funkmaster Flex and M.O.P. It’s a great hype song that makes you feel like you can take on any problem and get s^t done.*

Photos by LJK: That’s the ultimate “handle business” anthem! What’s a passion or hobby that brings you joy outside of work?

Tonya: My passion is coaching. I’ve had the amazing opportunity to see so many young men and women grow into becoming amazing athletes. Being able to celebrate their goals—whether it’s going to college or just making a middle school team—is so rewarding.

Photos by LJK: That impact lasts a lifetime! If you had to describe yourself in one word, what would it be?

Tonya: FIERCE!

Photos by LJK: Why did you choose that word?

Tonya: My brother said my personality is fierce, and because of that, I can take on the world and nothing will stop me.

Photos by LJK: Love that! How do you celebrate your wins, big or small?

Tonya: I celebrate quietly. I allow my accomplishments to speak for themselves. I would rather celebrate YOUR accomplishments and always be present in the moment for others. I’m a work in progress when it comes to celebrating myself.

Photos by LJK: That’s so selfless, but YOU deserve to be celebrated too! What does strength mean to you, and how do you embody it?

Tonya: Strength doesn’t always mean being the strong one. Strength is being able to show your weakness, to ask for help when needed, and to understand that we don’t always have to carry everything alone.

I’ve learned over the years that it’s okay to relax and take a break. Part of having strength is knowing when to pause and take time to smell the roses.

Photos by LJK: That’s such a wise perspective. If you could make one change in the world for women, what would it be?

Tonya: To be taken seriously and for people to understand that women are truly the jack of all trades. We run the entire universe. No matter what task is placed in front of us, we will accomplish it.

Photos by LJK: Say that again for the people in the back! Now, what’s one accomplishment you’re really proud of?

Tonya: I completed my Bachelor’s degree in Sociology in May 2022 and my Master’s in Human Resource Management in December 2024—all while raising two kids!

One plays collegiate baseball, and my second plays club soccer. I worked two jobs and coached an amazing volleyball team, leading them to two championships.

Photos by LJK: That is nothing short of incredible! Last question—if you had a billboard for one day, what would it say?

Tonya: DurhamDynasty is a way of life. We are here to inspire and take over the world!

Photos by LJK: And that is the energy we LOVE to see! Tonya, your fierce leadership, dedication, and resilience are truly inspiring. Thank you for sharing your journey with us!

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